Month: January 2023

You Don’t Need Validation

You Don’t Need Validation

You need no one’s approval. Your thoughts, proclivities, feelings, and needs are all intrinsically valuable. You are allowed to express yourself in whatever idiosyncratic way that makes you feel whole. There is no “normal”. On any given day you can be singularly focused or multi-passionate in your pursuits. What does matter, is that you express your talents and work tirelessly toward your own worthy goals. Somewhere out there, there is someone who resonates with the essence of who you are. Don’t hold back. Be bold. Express your unique gift. Have the courage to stand up for what you feel is right.

When you rely on validation from others, you give your power away.

You are worthy of taking up space and worthy of being treated with respect and kindness. No one is going to go out of their way to tell you that you are doing a “good job” or to recognize your talents until you recognize them in yourself. Pay no mind to what others think of you. Stay on your own virtuous path and focus on expressing your best self moment to moment. Declare yourself as the self-assured, confident person that I know you are and spiritual wealth will follow.

Drop by Drop

Drop by Drop

Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise man, gathering it little by little, fills himself with good. ~Buddha from the Dhammapada

Exhausted and walking toward our room after a long day of walking on vacation, my daughter ran for the elevator while I chose to climb the stairs up to the third floor. “Beat you!” she exclaimed as she burst from the elevator right before I could reach the top. ” You may have won this one, I said, but Mommy is winning the long game”.

Every moment we have a choice. One that is just as easy to do as it is not to do. Each choice casts a vote for who we want to be. Our identity is nothing but a series of small choices that compound on one another. One less piece of chocolate or one more. Park close or far away. Extend kindness or turn away from those you love. Take the elevator or take the stairs.

Drop by Drop, moment to moment. Cast a vote that makes you a better person. Micro-actions that will slowly but assuredly manifest the body, the life, and the love you’ve always wanted.