How many times have you committed to a new version of yourself, only to fail time and time again? Magical transformations are not easy and come at a very high energetic cost. Some people have a major life event or tragedy befall them. Some people have a sudden understanding or realization where they see how things in their life have been misaligned and gain instant clarity on what their new embodied self will look like. With a breakdown, there may be a breakthrough. However, for those of us stuck in the rut of a mundane and habitual life – how do we gain the motivation and energy to transform ourselves without such a dramatic realization. One tiny shift at a time.
If you don’t like how you feel about yourself or what your relationships look like then it is time to shift internally. No one is responsible for how you feel or how you act but yourself. You control your emotional state and your behavior. Acknowledge what you are uncomfortable with and the things in your life that you feel bad about or treat you badly. It is likely that you have brought this into your life by the way you feel and how you treat others or by your old patterns and programming. If we face ourselves honestly, we usually know the hard truths about what is causing us internal strife. The courage comes when you find the fire and grit inside to step out of your old pattern and demand a better version of yourself. The key is not to push down or excuse your behavior thereby making it acceptable or justifiable, but to acknowledge it directly and take one tiny action that proves you are committed to being a different and better person.
In an effort to be transparent, I can share that my internal discomfort centers around vulnerability in all of my relationships. Yet, I am at my best when I let others in. I can deny this truth and stay guarded or I can try to lean on others more and let love in. Simple but not easy. Sometimes facing your discomfort with one embrace, one shared truth, one raw and emotional moment leads to one tiny shift in the way you view yourself. Sometimes, I visualize what life would be like If I did not make this change, this evolution toward connection. Am I willing to lose that person, lose myself, or lose my health and vitality just because I was not willing to face something that makes me uncomfortable? No, I am not and so I am willing to face myself and make that change now. I am willing to make one tiny shift toward a new beginning and shed my old beliefs and patterns that cause me to show up as a lesser version of myself. How can you lean into what makes you uncomfortable and embody it instead of turning away?
There is nothing holding you back from your new beginning but yourself.